Dear Deidre, Help, my toddler won’t eat!

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Ben, my irascible-yet-charming preschooler, has eaten nothing but a rice cake since yesterday morning. And this is a perfectly regular occurrence in our house.

Every mealtime is greeted by his siren call: ‘I don’t want chicken sandwich/apple pie/sausages/grapes/whatever ‘ and everytime I say, ‘okay, come and eat when you’re hungry’. Because I know how to do this mother thing. I read the books. I rock at this.

The trouble is, he never comes and eats. I like to presume it’s because he’s never hungry rather than because my cooking is intolerable.

Every week though, I make fried rice because I know this is one meal he will eat and I throw in everything I can because this meal is a deal-breaker in maintaining his weight. Because, you know, he was a failure-to-thrive baby and it will be my job until he is 18 to worry about his weight. And after that? I will most likely be dead with parenting-related exhaustion.

After he has painstakingly picked out every miniscule item of stuff he doesn’t want, and then thrown it at me in protest, he will force-feed himself the rest until his poor wee stomach is ready to pop and he takes on the appearance of a foie-gras goose.

Then he burps satisfactorily.

And I think, my work here is done.

Because I’m a mother and I take my achievements wherever I can.

And then I regret he isn’t my only child so I wouldn’t have to cook for another week.

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Eva November 28, 2008

So what’s the recipe then???

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Ella November 28, 2008

Eva – would if it was that good. Methinks Ben might just consider it the best of a bad lot.

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Carmi November 30, 2008

He’s been talking to our youngest, who has turned food-related finickiness into an art form in itself.

You are, as ever, a great read. Been too long since I popped by! Must address that.

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Laura McIntyre December 5, 2008

Ugg hope he grows out of it, must be frustrating for all. At least he eats something :)

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helloitsgemma January 9, 2011

I have the same problem. every meal he requests pesto and pasta and then is massively disappointed by the what ever else I have spent ages preparing. does-my-head-in.

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ella January 9, 2011

I start to lose the will to live when that happens!

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