I’m Ella. I’m a mother to four children, Harry, 10, William, 8 , Ben, 6 and Edward, 4. I love my life but there is way too much laundry.
After Second Son was born, and probably a bit while I was pregnant with him, I suffered from severe post-partum depression. I avoided deliberately crashing my car into a tree and now I’m a bit better, better enough to have had another two children anyway, without everyone thinking I should be locked up.
My third son was a failure to thrive baby and I grew quite a lot of grey hairs that year. And then my beloved springer spaniels died early of canine liver disease. We coped with all that and thought our life was on a bit more of an even keel and then on February 20th 2009 my son was diagnosed with FSGS, a rare and devastating kidney disease, and our lives changed forever. It’s fair to say that I now no longer sweat the small stuff. We deal with an uncertain outlook for him including a likely transplant in the future and the daily worries of him being immunosuppressed. You can read about William’s battle with FSGS and Nephrotic Syndrome here.
In the years B.C. (before children) I was involved with music which I loved. I also did a postgraduate degree and then threw myself into academia which I loved too. Now I do freelance work when people ring me up and ask me to although I have to resist my first urge to turn them down on the basis that if they saw my house and my organisational skills they wouldn’t ask me to write a shopping list for them, let alone do some work.
I worry about poverty, the environment, animal welfare and war. I wish that stay-at-home motherhood didn’t render mothers so invisible in society. I’m working to change all of these things in very small ways.
I write stuff all the time, mostly in my head because I’m busy with children, but sometimes I get to put it down on paper or on the internet. I also love music, especially pop, Britpop and, rather geekily, film scores. Mostly I live to read (even though I can’t remember the last time I had a moment to read more than a sentence or two in peace).
I blog here about things to do with life and home, parenting, learning, food and geek as well as our family life – motherhood in real-time if you like – so go, read, click here for my latest posts.